THE CONSTRAINTS OF BEING A SINGLE MOM
There are always two sides in any given situation, the good and the bad. I have been a single mom for seven years and allow me to share the downside of my situation. I am fortunate to be still living with my parents. Aside from having free board and lodging, I am confident to leave the house when needed since I know I am leaving my son in good hands. My parents do not mind it since they adore my son. I used to be employed in a call center for 3 years and given the odd hours of my job then, they helped me get by. They were always there for my son. I had a nanny before and of course it is hard to entrust your child to just anybody, my mom would always oversee things which lessened my worries.
Of course as I have mentioned above there are also set-backs. For instance, when I try to discipline my son and impose certain rules, my mom or dad would step-in. They would say that he is a child and he is entitled to be the mischievous boy that he is at times. They would give excuses for him. But as I remember from my childhood my dad was a disciplinarian. And yet for my son he bends the rules. When I ask him why, they would say, grandparents are there to spoil the child. After years of trying to overrule this excuse, I finally gave in. I just accepted the fact that it is their privilege to do so given the time and effort they spent on me.
Second, you can not just go on a whim. Unlike when I was single, I just took care of myself. Attended to my needs and satisfied my urges. I was accountable for myself. But now before I leave the house or make any decision I have to take into consideration my son which comprises majority of the decision I reach. In looking for a job I have to make sure that I will not compromise too much of my time wherein I will not be able to spend quality time with my son. He comes first above all things. Also, no matter how late I sleep at night, I have to make sure to wake up early the next day to prepare his things for school, to wake him up and to bring him to school. I need to make my schedule based on his.
Third, there are times when you just to want to throw caution to the wind. You just want to leave all worries behind and treat yourself to a well-deserved rest and recreation. Especially when a day, a week or a month has been stressful, juggling all your roles. But at the end of the day when you watch your son peaceful sleeping, knowing that his mom is always there for him, all your sacrifices are worth it. The limitation of being a single mom gets erased from your mind and you feel that you are on top of the world. It is an exhilarating thought to ponder on.
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