Communication with your unborn

When the mummy feels the first few movements of her baby, a more intensive contact between her and the baby start to develop. At the beginning, she might not yet be sure what this “language” might mean.

 

The feeling of “having butterflies” in your belly comes from the movement of its little hands. The “boxing”, which can be felt as pushes against the abdominal wall, are caused by movement of its legs or its elbows. Sometimes, towards the end of the pregnancy, we can even observe a shape of a little leg pushed against the abdominal wall at certain moments. If the head lies in the pelvic area, you can feel its movement as very mild electric shocks in the direction towards your labia.

 

The first knock – first communication 

 

The first sensations of the baby “knocking” in this way, are incredibly amazing. Of course, that every mother tries to involve the daddy too in this amazing experience. However, when the daddy places his hands over the belly, there is usually a complete silence. The baby usually feels that it is now the center of attention and it keeps still and pays attention to what is happening out there.

 

When these movements are felt, every mother places her hands over the belly every now and then, pats the unborn child and talks to him. The baby hears and feels this. It reacts to the gentle pressure of the patting hand and it then swims towards the abdominal wall, it presses itself against it so that it exposes itself to even more of this tender love and care.

 

Talk to me

 

The babies sleep inside their mummy’s body during the day too. Because of this, the mother might  sometimes be worried that there is something wrong with it. If she is not sure about this, she can awaken the baby by talking to it, by moving the belly or, in some cases, even by ringing an alarm clock.

 

The mum-to-be learns to interpret the different types of the baby’s movement pretty fast: when it wants to cuddle or when it is agitated, when it feels frightened or when it is in a good mood and it rolls over. They show their feelings and impressions with their whole body. They can “jump” with joy, or move suddenly when they get startled with something and they curl up when they are scared.

 

Most of the women call their unborn babies cute names at this stage of pregnancy and it even seems that children remember these sounds and respond to them later on in life. Communication could help.

 

Some adults even talk about their life before being born during various therapy sessions. It seems that with the use of trance, certain breathing techniques or drugs, these repressed, spontaneous memories can flow up to the surface and be recalled again.

 

 

 

Weaning Your Breastfed Baby

It’s often a hard decision to terminate nursing. Especially if a mother has enough milk and would like to make time for other activities, but her child demands breast milk even when he’s close to his second birthday.

 

It’s not true that breastfeeding after the first year is unnecessary and that the milk is weak and less nutritious. Breast milk can cover up to 30% of the child’s protein and energy needs even after his first birthday.

If a mother still decides to wean her baby off earlier, its her decision and should be respected.

 

Weaning

 

Weaning demands time and patience. Fast weaning is usually accompanied by restlessness and cries. The child should be in a good health shape because weaning usually isn’t successful during illness. Sometimes, it’s necessary to return to breastfeeding in such a situation even if the child has been weaned already.

In order for your breast milk production to decrease, it is recommended to skip one feeding a day every two to three days.  Start with times when the baby is not as interested and your breasts aren’t as filled.  During the following week, reduce the frequency of breastfeeding until you completely stop.

Weaning babyFor some time afterwards, your breasts may release a small amount of milk. That’s completely normal. During fast weaning, women’s breasts still get very filled. The only thing to do in such a situation is to pump out the breast milk. Before that, it’s good to warm the breasts. During different times cold compressions bring relief. Breast pressing is not recommended.

 

Remember that:

 

– Intensive contact with a child, caressing and expressing love are encouraged during weaning. It’s not appropriate to decrease contact with a child at this time.

– When a child expects to be breastfed, try to bring his attention to other things: to a game, his favorite food, etc.

– A change in environment can help the child forget about breastfeeding.

– It’s better for the child to rest more during weaning.

– Its usually easier to postpone breastfeeding with an irregularly breastfed toddler. Some children can’t wait though and demand breast milk even more often.

– Another good way to help weaning is shortening the breastfeeding time.

– Get the father involved.  He can entertain or cook for his child when he would normally be breastfed.

 

 Reasons that don’t demand weaning a child

 

– Feelings of overload and fatigue

– Teething

– Breast inflammation (not „emptying“ the breast can worsen the situation)

– Common diseases of the mother or child (like an upper respiratory infection, etc.). Most of the commonly used drugs can be taken while breastfeeding, however it is always wise to ask your doctor.

– Pregnancy (during a healthy, normal pregnancy a mother may continue breastfeeding her child)

– Concerns about the lack of or poor quality of the milk (these are usually unfounded)

– The age of the child